He deserved to be dumped.

Recently I have been listening to three young females talk about their “recently broken up with” boyfriends. Actually one of them is a recently broken up with husband, but the same principals apply. All three grew up and the boys did not. I think they each made the best decision to let the relationship go. They each felt, and still feel, bad about it. They wonder what they did wrong and what they could have done better. They care.
Well that is OK. A person should examine their past relationship and learn what they can do better next time. There is nothing wrong with that. However, that is not all these girls do. They talk to the guys. They read their email. They let them come to their house.
Now these guys were not the kind that are going to be friends after the relationship, although these girls (I call them girls because I am so much older) are capable of keeping them as friends if the guys had been mature enough. The guys, to a man, or should I say boy, were not able to be the kind to continue on as friends.
So now these girls, who saw the handwriting on the wall a little while ago have erased the handwriting and have begun to have fencing matches with these young losers about why they broke up.
Here is the point. If the boy could have understood what he was lacking and where he was deficient, then they may not have broken up at all. Yet these girls, because they are so nice, are trying to explain to the boys, when the boys whine on the phone, why they broke up. The boys write emails, they call at 2am, they show up at the girl’s apartment and they whine. It makes me sick. They are losers. They are stupid losers. The girls need to move on. They need to delete, hang up and shut the door.
I am sorry if that sounds harsh. No, I am not, really, I just say that because I am suppose to. My preference is to beat the shit out of them with a baseball bat, but since we are such a touchy feely nation now we cannot do that sort of thing. (It would get the point across.)
These boys are making these girl’s lives miserable because they will not let it go. They want these girls to hurt I guess. I do not like that.
If you know a girl in this situation, then tell them to tell the boy, he has to move on. They can do it politely if they want, but they have to do it. Otherwise it will continue. The girls are so nice that there is a chance that this whining boy might get her to change her mind. He might manipulate her back into a relationship. If that happens she will be lost forever. He will then be able to do anything to her and she will be helpless. That is how abuse starts. Then some wife or Dad kills some poor slob of a husband and goes to jail. All because this girl could not “delete,” “hang up,” or “shut the door.”
That is Billdad's advice for today.